How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality: I want to talk about the Madonna Whore Complex. If you don’t know what it is, I’m going to explain it to you.
Image Source: sheknows
What is Madonna Whore Complex?
Madonna means like the Virgin Mary, the pure women. And the whore means the dirty girl, the sexual girl. Now, this is a psychological state that a lot of men exist in where they think there’s two types of girls.
There’s this good pure woman like my wife, my mother, my sister, my baby daughter and then there is these bad, disgusting women like the prostitute.
This is a really distorted and damaging way to see female sexuality because it put people in two distinct boxes. When actually human sexuality is totally fluid and there is a whole scale of different ways people express themselves in different situation.
What I am trying to convey is that- How does this affect your sex life and the women you are interacting with?
So, I want to bring to the surface, another huge contributing factor to this Madonna Whore Complex and it is you and your insecurities and your jealousy, depression and frustration. [How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality]
When a guy often says, ‘She’s a slut.’ What he is really saying is-’Why is se not being slutty with me?’. So, its frustrating at the fact that she is not giving you sex. And for a man, it can often feel like there’s this precious rare valuable energy, that is sex.
And it feels like you have to hike through snow and broken glass, to get the tiniest drop of sexual energy.
You get lucky, as the society tells you. And ten your internal reaction can be like for her to just give away to some guy without even putting in any effort, can be really triggering for men. Because it’s so difficult for him to attain and yet so easy for her to give out and to unleash her sexuality.
So, starting with this mindset that there’s something wrong with women who expresses his sexuality and letting your jealousy and frustration that she is not expressing it with you can create a whole belief structure around women that shame them from expressing this beautiful part of themselves.
You are actually darkening the world and dampening the energy of the world because this is a huge part of who she is. You know, every person has a whole bunch of different facets to their personality- their social connection, their creativity, their work ethics, their humour and their sexuality is one of those.
It’s a piece of who they are as a person and so many men are shaming women, making them feel guilty and repressing that part of her. [How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality]
Read More: The Enduring Myth of ‘Complicated’ Female Sexuality
Right Mindset About Women Sexuality
So many women grow up in the world where they are taught by Society that their sexuality isn’t okay, often through direct expression or indirectly.
And then as a result of that they learn that showing this part of myself is not okay! People can’t handle it; people act negatively to it and therefore I am going to hide it.
Image Source: yourtango
The good news is, if you are a guy who recognizes the actual beauty of this without letting your jealousy muddy it up, women are dying to express themselves, they would love to express that part of themselves in a non-judgmental safe space.
All women are sexual. So, let go over this belief that there are some women who aren’t like that and start to realize that it doesn’t have to be a shameful or dirty thing. Respecting her really means accepting that she is a sexual creature.
Guys often try acts like they respect a woman by saying ‘I wouldn’t take you home on the first night because I respect you too much’.
What they are really trying to say is that ‘they wouldn’t want to see her in a sexual light because they think that she will think something is wrong with them if they see that inside of her. But the most beautiful thing you can give her is allowing her to express that part of herself. [How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality]
So, this is a question to you guys. Do you want to be a part of that one percent of guys who can understand female sexuality? And reap the rewards of her feeling comfortable to let her go with you.
So, let’s have a look at what are some of my positive beliefs about female sexuality? I think sluts are cool and I guess I’m part of in movement that wants to reclaim that word as something to be positive. If you follow your desires and you are open to your experiences, I really respect that.
So, a lot of girls that have sex with me quickly it’s not like I’m doing it and then judging them afterwards. The reason they are doing it is because I am not judging them at all. In my mind, they are like a freedom fighter, you know, me and her on the same team battling a society that tells us that sex isn’t okay.
She is a rebel and she is doing what she wants and holding two big middle fingers up at the system that tries to repress her and she’s doing what she wants with her body, with who she wants, when she wants and why she wants. [How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality]
So, you are actually an asshole if you hide that masculine energy and stop sharing it with women. We need more conscious guys in the world to inspire women to open up. Don’t let your fear of being a creep stop you from being a boss. Don’t let misogynistic energy stop you from sharing your positive energy.
Read More: Worst 101 Myths About Male Sexuality
Conclusion: How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality
So, the question I want to ask you guys are- What are your negative beliefs about female sexuality? For example- ‘I think girls who go home on the first night are sluts. Girls, shouldn’t give up too early. Girls who respect themselves would wait for the right guy.’
And I want you to explore how much of that is from your jealousy and your frustration that girls are not being sledding with you and what are some alternative beliefs that you could have. That is all for this article. I hope you guy agree with me and make sure to check out my other articles as well. [How Female Sexuality Works? Myths About Female Sexuality]